It's Personal...

Pseudo Stupidity · Post by **Pseudo Stupidity** » Tue Oct 09, 2018 5:12 pm

Eikre wrote: Far be it from me to cast aspersions on extramarital fucking, but weaving polyamory into your identity or your needs isn't vastly more meritorious than it is with video games. I have spent weeks waking up in different beds every morning and passing occasional coffee-brewing boyfriends on my way out the door, but, fucking hell, I've got other shit to do, man. Houseplants I need to go water. People need to prepare, as Heidegger put it, a "free relationship" with poly; the capacity to interface with it estimable, but if you're less of a person in its absence then you're not a complete person at all.

Installing a favorite person in the same dwelling as you is highly good, I absolutely recommend it, but then you set yourself some personal time and whether the buddies joining you for it are shoving steel rods down your urethra or just going hiking isn't really material to your domestic existence. On the other hand, accumulating GGG credit or kink-face through performative bonding with boyfriends-of-girlfriend is loathsome and predicates the most superficial community imaginable. I can't write off your particular complexes, but from my perspective, the sex doesn't get any better, either. Nobody on the scene is ever as good at it as I am except for whatever ten-year-my-senior, fresh-out-of-decades-long-committed-relationship, burning-hot-to-see-what-she's-been-missing woman that I'm bringing in the first place.

I'm too jaded and too far out of middle school to engage with the purported radicalism of sex geekery. The only holy grail is the functional domestic triad, and trying too hard for it is just going to land you in something deeply artificial, like some kind of post-modern rehash of the unsatisfactory 50's marriage.

I'm just here to brag about being in a functional domestic triad (though my wife is the anchor, I'm basically just close friends with bennies with her partner). It's pretty cool, though I still want a dude in the mix to get some dick and make it so we always have a full group for Catan and Fortnite.

Come at me you amateurs.

Can we talk about the dating scene for poly bi dudes in committed relationships? Grindr is fucking terrible for meeting people who aren't just looking for no-strings sex, OK Cupid appears to be a dead end, and meeting people in real life is hard without coming out and dealing with all that crap. And the poly scene is just cover for swingers/kink 99% of the time (at least in my area).

I'm aware I'm targeting a very specific demographic, but this shit is annoying.

Count Arioch the 28th · Tue Oct 09, 2018 11:59 pm

I feel you for the most part (I am likely one of the fetishists/swingers that you are complaining about, however). I stopped looking for women on Tindr when I realized that as batshit crazy as I am, I'm still saner that most unmarried women my age (feels too creepy to hit on younger women, don't have enough in common with most older women). Haven't tried Grindr, but the gays/bis on Tindr are either gym rats or very unattractive (no one in the middle)

Mostly, I like being in a committed relationship with one person, but I also like to have occasional casual sex with my friends. And was hoping I could see two chicks going at it in real life for a change.

Whipstitch · Post by **Whipstitch** » Fri Oct 12, 2018 7:29 am

It's funny how sometimes it's the li'l things that strike you as poignant. I was reminded that Eve Online is free to play these days so I decided to check in on my old account in the first time in over a decade but to do so I had to go through account recovery to get back a username I couldn't remember via an embarrassingly named email address I no longer regularly use. Turned out my username is also an in-joke I had (almost) had forgotten about and seeing it again reminded me of being an idiot in my early 20s who lived with his best friend in a shitty apartment that was located disastrously close to all the cheapest bars. I think I might have been even dumber than I remembered. I kinda miss it.

Ancient History · Post by **Ancient History** » Sat Oct 13, 2018 2:37 pm

http://deepcuts.blog/2018/10/13/kanye-w ... la-lisbon/

Shrapnel · Post by **Shrapnel** » Sun Oct 14, 2018 12:34 am

I FINALLY got my computer up and running! Now I can play naked Skyrim just like the rest of the free world! My life is now meaningful!

Zaranthan · Post by **Zaranthan** » Sun Oct 14, 2018 6:07 am

Whipstitch wrote:I was reminded that Eve Online is free to play these days so I decided to check in on my old account

All that existential stuff is great and all, but the real question is: since starting race used to not matter, did your Alpha clone end up with missiles or drones?

Whipstitch · Post by **Whipstitch** » Sun Oct 14, 2018 7:19 am

drones, obvs

Thaluikhain · Post by **Thaluikhain** » Tue Oct 16, 2018 5:53 pm

My internet is properly working again, so now I can visit here/various other places, instead of being reduced to playing Skyrim or something.

hyzmarca · Post by **hyzmarca** » Tue Oct 23, 2018 12:26 am

So, this is a rhetorical question, but why can't hurricanes be 8 hours of without vital utilities followed by two weeks of lethal winds instead of the other way around. It would be more fun that way.

Pariah Dog · Post by **Pariah Dog** » Tue Oct 23, 2018 1:33 am

Because of a little thing called cause and effect. The high winds are what cause the utilities to go out.

The real fun is the post disaster logistics of people who have damages to their homes and vehicles are trying to find hotels and rental cars in the area, meanwhile local, state and FEMA are throwing several people out into that area that need rental cars and hotels to stay in while they work.

Iduno · Post by **Iduno** » Wed Oct 24, 2018 1:05 pm

hyzmarca wrote:So, this is a rhetorical question, but why can't hurricanes be 8 hours of without vital utilities followed by two weeks of lethal winds instead of the other way around. It would be more fun that way.

The lethal winds prevent getting the utilities fixed, so it would be 2 weeks and 8 hours without vital utilities.

That's why the 1997 UTILITIES Act requires all hurricanes to follow the current normal of either
1) up to and including 2 weeks of storm followed by up to 3 days of flooding and shut-off utilities; or
2) Light rum, dark rum, a minimum of 2 citrus juices, and garnish.

Iduno · Post by **Iduno** » Wed Oct 24, 2018 1:37 pm

And my own post, as a reminder to myself that I inhabit a hell dimension.

I got to attend a jury duty empaneling yesterday. Out of about 60 people who were interviewed to determine eligibility as a juror (both defense and prosecution can choose to remove people due to them being biased against their case, or their likelihood of causing a mistrial by violating the accused's rights), about 40 said the police shouldn't be held to a lot of rules while investigating crimes. Over half said they would, even if the judge ordered them not to, use evidence shown to be obtained illegally to determine guilt or innocence. As the police around here are known for planting evidence, that's a great start. There were also at least half who would hold it against the accused if they exercise their 5th amendment rights (which is super illegal), about 10 of whom said they would vote to convict solely on that.

And that's how I, the guy who described (on the form they have you fill out) watching police kill one of my neighbors among other bad experiences with police, and had heard police coaching each other on how to lie in court, nearly got chosen to be one of the 3 people out of 60 chosen for the jury. The quarter they narrowed it down to were brought in for individual interviews, and it may have been the lack of sleep in the last few days or 9 hours without water, but I could tell from the look in the lead prosecutor's eyes that they wanted me to say I would not be biased against police testimony. Either because most people in the room were going to cause a mistrial by ignoring the law, or because she was afraid they'd skin her for the crime of being a woman with a job. But I'd like to believe it's because my honest answer to "what is the first thing you think of when you hear defense attorney?" was "My Cousin Vinny?". Again, sleep deprivation mixed with a want to be honest.

edit: I'm mostly just surprised with the literal ranting vehemence of their defense of their beliefs. I mean, I'll admit I'm a bit nuts, but I'm not going to be a dick saying everyone should have the same opinion about cops being murderers.

Little surprise the people helped elect one of these, and will elect the other soon: https://www.texasobserver.org/trump-dec ... on-tirade/

Stahlseele · Post by **Stahlseele** » Fri Oct 26, 2018 10:49 pm

After just over 11 Years, i have today had my last day at my current job . .
Feels . . kinda strange to me <.<

Iduno · Post by **Iduno** » Sat Oct 27, 2018 1:06 am

Stahlseele wrote:After just over 11 Years, i have today had my last day at my current job . .
Feels . . kinda strange to me <.<

Congratulations.

Stahlseele · Post by **Stahlseele** » Sat Oct 27, 2018 1:03 pm

Thanks.
Starting new Job at 11.19.2018 for roughly double pay and 2 more days of holiday.
It will be pretty damn hard because i will be going from 35 hours a week to basically 45 hours a week (8 hours work and 1 hour break every day) and also i will need to try and survive early shifts that start at 6 in the morning x.x

Iduno · Post by **Iduno** » Mon Oct 29, 2018 1:01 pm

Stahlseele wrote:6 in the morning

Is that a German thing? Since when is there a 6 in the morning?

Nah, I'm kidding. I've accidentally been up still at 6 in the morning.

Longes · Post by **Longes** » Mon Oct 29, 2018 2:13 pm

Stahlseele wrote:Thanks.
Starting new Job at 11.19.2018 for roughly double pay and 2 more days of holiday.
It will be pretty damn hard because i will be going from 35 hours a week to basically 45 hours a week (8 hours work and 1 hour break every day) and also i will need to try and survive early shifts that start at 6 in the morning x.x

Good luck! If you don't mind me asking - how much will you earn now? My only scale for denners is Frank getting unlimited doctor money.

deaddmwalking · Post by **deaddmwalking** » Mon Oct 29, 2018 3:05 pm

I don't mind sharing salary information.

According to my 2017 W-2, I earned $72,032.02 last year. Through October 13th (paid through date on my last paycheck) I had earned $61,074.45, which puts me roughly on track with last year. I work as a Relationship Manager for large customers that accept credit card payments, specializing in the government and higher education markets. I started with my current company in 2009 after leaving GEICO. I had to take a significant pay cut when I switched industries, but I'm probably making more now than I would have if I stayed at GEICO. I have a Bachelor of Arts degree in International Relations. It's not diamond-studded toilet paper money, but I feel like I'm doing alright. My wife also works.

Although we're making more than we've ever made before, combined, we have practically nothing in savings and have significant debt (including student loans and a car payment). The cost of raising three children, even modestly, is...excessive. I'm hoping that neither of us lose our job; once all three kids are in school we should really be in a position to pay down all the debts and have a chance to move up out of the middle-middle class. None of those are guarantees - my company just laid off 1% of its workforce and a large portion of my total wages is based on performance incentives which could change at any time with or without notice.

virgil · Post by **virgil** » Mon Oct 29, 2018 3:32 pm

Man, I would love to make $72k. My wife & I jointly make about $40k (after taxes). Hell, if my engineering position started my pay at $50k instead of $35k, I would've been completely debt-free a year ago (instead of just as much in debt as when I started)...

Stahlseele · Post by **Stahlseele** » Mon Oct 29, 2018 3:34 pm

@Iduno
staying up till after 6 in the morning is not a problem for me either <.<

@Longes
Starting salary will be 2600€ / month and 2 more days of holiday per Year.

Longes · Post by **Longes** » Tue Oct 30, 2018 11:33 am

Stahlseele wrote:@Iduno
staying up till after 6 in the morning is not a problem for me either <.<

@Longes
Starting salary will be 2600€ / month and 2 more days of holiday per Year.

Congrats on the salary upgrade! I earn 2k per month (after taxes) as an IT consultant. Clearly deaddmwalking is the monopoly man among us.

Stahlseele · Post by **Stahlseele** » Tue Oct 30, 2018 2:44 pm

Thanks! But my 2.6k is before taxes and everything. Not sure what, exactly, i am looking at realistically in terms of actually appearing on my bank account . .
And yes, so it would seem o.o

Pariah Dog · Post by **Pariah Dog** » Tue Oct 30, 2018 10:20 pm

Disaster relief work here.

Last pay stub shows just under 40k after Uncle Scam takes his ~30% of my check. Last check was bigger than a "normal" check but not as big as they are going to be for the rest of the year (2 week check for 95 hours right as the shit hit the fan, whereas I'm doing 72 hour weeks so 144 hour checks)

In the event I ever had a full year with nothing at all happening (so no Overtime or shift differential) I'd make $49.2k before taxes.

Quick napkin math shows ~3.5k paychecks for the rest of the year unless by some miracle the 72 hour work weeks fall off.

Come March though I do foresee myself looking for new work.

Count Arioch the 28th · Fri Nov 02, 2018 1:59 am

My salary is pretty good when you take into account that I'm batshit insane (and not in a marketable way). Let's just leave it at that.

virgil · Post by **virgil** » Tue Nov 13, 2018 8:36 pm

So I got rear-ended on the highway last week in a hit-and-run. They totaled my car, and I only have 4 months left to pay off the car.

Haven't fully looked yet, but I'm suspecting I'm just going to try to get another Prius. The fact that a car would need to be like $5k cheaper at minimum to offset the gas efficiency is a huge factor.